Teaching Vocabulary Words

5 Comments May 9, 2012 in Homeschool and Parenting

We were visiting great friends for a few weeks. One of their kids used a big word in his conversation – and suddenly they all interrupted with a cheer, ‘Cookie Word’!

Cookie Words!

We had no idea what a cookie word was, so they explained.

Their kids were encouraged to use big words in everyday communication. If they did, they’d get… a cookie! Therefore it became a ‘Cookie Word’.

We’ve never given cookies, but we’ve adapted the game and when someone uses a big word in context in everyday conversation (Mom, I have a headache. It’s like my cerebellum is pulsing.) then we cheer ‘Yeah! Cookie Word!’

It’s fun!

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Teaching Vocabulary

There are lots of good ways to build your kids’ vocabulary! Here are some ideas:

  • Read the Bible to them out loud, and when old enough, have them read it to you. Stop and ask for definitions of words they may not understand. It helps them get the story, too.
  • Read out loud to them as much as you can. We learn many definitions from context and tone. Read with inflection and they will understand almost every word. Read a word often enough and they’ll start to use it.
  • Don’t just read kid books. Find books with big words that have fascinating stories (The Door Within, for example).
  • Old words are often good cookie words. Find old, old stories or even the KJV if you want to try some old English.
  • Grab the dictionary! Find a good word every morning at breakfast and declare it the cookie word of the day! Then give rewards for whoever uses that word correctly in conversation throughout the day. (Even better if they include it in their written assignments!)
  • Buy a good vocabulary game. Balderdash is excellent. So is Literati Challenge. Literati Challenge is really for ages 13+, but we have used it younger and it’s fun. We’ve learned great words like perspicacity and odious. (Do you know what they mean?)
  • Ban boring words like ‘whatever’ and ‘good’ and ‘nice’ and ‘okay’ and ‘fine’. Choose a word to ban for the day and see how creative you can be with finding better, cookie words to replace it.

How about you?

How do you teach vocabulary to your kids? Do you have a cookie word you’d like to share?

(I have two I’m just dying to share… but I won’t until someone leaves a good cookie word in the comments!)

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The Respect Dare Series Hi-Jacked By Exhaustion

5 Comments May 8, 2012 in Christian Life, Marriage, Married Single Moms, Teen Girls and Women

Okay. I know you are ALL expecting a Respect Dare post today. And I’m sure there’s a really good post down deep in my heart. WAAAYYY down deep.

But I’m far too tired to dig that far!

I didn’t realize how exhausted I’d be after my 13 day tour in Ontario. I’m far too tired to write anything coherent so I’m changing the rules…

Today YOU write something. Leave a comment or two and tell me how much you love me and this blog. I could use a little pick-me-up!!

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Iced Tea

1 Comment May 6, 2012 in Food & Fun

Iced Tea - Carla Anne Coroy - glass of iced tea with lemon sliceThere’s something about warm sunshine, blue skies and a glass of cold iced tea that says ‘summer’ to me. We’ve had such a glorious spring (glorious late winter really – strange weather this year) that it just seems right to have iced tea ready in the fridge.

I’d like to share my iced tea recipe and tips with you… so you can have summer waiting for you in your fridge too!

Iced Tea

8 tea bags (black tea or your favorite kind)
4 cups hot water (boiling or near boiling)
12 cups cold water
1 1/3 cup Xylitol (or 1 1/2 cups sugar)
1/2 lemon, thinly sliced in circles, unpeeled, seeds removed

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Cold, fresh Ice Tea is a summer-time favorite at our house!

  • In a one gallon jar or jug steep the tea in the hot water until the water is just warm.
  • Remove the tea bags without squeezing them! (Squeezing them makes the tea bitter.)
  • Add sweetener and stir until completely dissolved.
  • Add cold water.
  • Drop in the lemon slices.
  • Refrigerate for at least 1 hour before serving.

There you go! Of course, you may want to add ice just before serving, or serve a bowl of ice and let people add it to their glasses as they like.

Now part of the fun of iced tea is changing it up a bit from time to time. Here are some variations you can try!

Iced Tea Variations

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  • Instead of lemons, use fresh halved or quartered strawberries.
  • Instead of lemons, use 1 whole peach thinly sliced.
  • Add a sachet of spice to the boiling water and tea bags as follows:
    • 2 cinnamon stick
    • 4 cloves
    • 2 thin slice fresh ginger
    • 4 cardamom pods
    • rind from one orange
    • 1/4 tsp nutmeg (or even better 2 blades of mace)
  • Omit the sweetener all together!
  • Use frozen whole fruit (strawberries, peaches, berries, etc) as ice cubes in your iced tea.
  • Instead of fresh lemons, use 1/4 cup lemon juice.
  • Instead of black tea use herbal tea and complementary fruit.
    • For example Bumbleberry Tea with fresh or dried blueberries (or use frozen berries instead of ice cubes)

Share your favorite iced tea twist!

How do you like your iced tea?

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Look What I’ve Been Up To!

5 Comments May 5, 2012 in News and Personal

Well… tomorrow is my last event on this tour. I’m kind of glad and kind of sad.

I’m glad to be going home soon to see my kids and husband. And I’m sad to end this tour of meeting new people and seeing what God is doing in the hearts of women through my book and ministry.

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Getting my make-up done for the 100 Huntley Show.

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On the set with Moira Brown. So exciting!


On Tour in Ontario

Here are some of the highlights:

Michael’s Family Books in Pickering

At my first book signing at Michael’s Family Books in Pickering a lovely lady – young, unmarried, not a mother – came over to see my book. She said, ‘I can’t buy a book but I can pray for you.’

It reminded me of when Peter said, “Silver and gold we don’t have, but what we have we give you. In the name of Jesus Christ the Lord, get up and walk!” (Acts 3:6)

And boy did she give me a lot!! She prayed with me that the heavens would open, that my flights would be paid for, that the Lord would expand my ministry to various countries and continents and that He would release His spirit into me and over me. Wow… I felt so blessed.

What an amazing thing to be surrounded by God’s people, family really, no matter where we go!

100 Huntley Street

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Moira Brown and me after the show.

Another highlight, of course, was being on 100 Huntley Street. I was able to travel with a prayer partner and that made it extra special.

I was quite nervous – I have to be honest. But yet I could so sense God carrying me.

And it went so well!!

I hope you watched it!  If not, click here and take a look.

I love MOPS!

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The Brantford MOPS group!!

Speaking at 2 MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) groups was fun.

I love speaking with young moms! There’s just so much energy (well… tired energy) and fun and laughter when moms get together.

I was so blessed by these groups.

And the fun thing is both groups had guests who weren’t young moms… and we all felt like a great big happy group.

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Speaking on the Mission of Motherhood in Brantford at the Pregnancy & Resource Centre.

Brantford Book Signing

While I was at The Gospel Lighthouse in Brantford doing a book signing my heart was thrilled.

A man came into the store with a little girl. And boy, was this man on a mission!!

He is doing the Love Dare and was on the hunt for a gift for his wife. He was on Day 3.

He said that in those 3 days he’d already gotten all excited about what this would do for his marriage. I and the bookstore lady helped him scour the store to find the right gift.

I was nearly giddy knowing that somewhere there’d be a wife who would be getting a symbol of her husband’s love for her. How exciting!!

I loved watching this husband search until he found the perfect gift.  :)

Faith Family Books in Scarborough

Look what I've been up to - Carla Anne Coroy - Carla Anne book signing at Faith Family books in Scarborough

This was my set-up at Faith Family books. A great spot in the store… right by the front door!

During my book signing at Faith Family Books I had lovely discussions with so many people.

First one about parenting. Then another about how God brought two elderly people together for a ‘new’ marriage.

A friend from days gone by came to say hello and chat! Wow… it reminded me how much I loved our ladies group from way back when (right Michèle – did I get the accent right?) and how sisters in Christ can be united no matter how long the time apart is.

Bowmanville Ladies Breakfast

Look what I've been up to - Carla Anne Coroy - With Nicola Keene at Liberty Pentecostal women's breakfast

My prayer partner and dear friend, Nicola Keene, did a great job in organizing the events in Bowmanville.

This morning I spoke at a church in Bowmanville where we used to live. It was a ladies breakfast that my good friend and prayer partner organized.

They had a LOT more women come than they expected and it was FUN!

For the first time in my life I had a standing ovation!!

(Okay… only one person stood… but I didn’t know who she was and she really, really blessed my heart with that!)

Liberty Pentecostal Church in Bowmanville

Look what I've been up to - Carla Anne Coroy - Sign at Liberty Pentecostal Church in Bowmanville

My name up on a massive sign in Bowmanville. Still kind of feels weird to see my name up on a sign.

Sunday morning (tomorrow) is my last opportunity on this trip to speak. I’m looking forward to it. What a joy to be able to share more of what God has been teaching me.

And then I come home!! I should be home by late Monday night. Ready for a good sleep in my own bed.

The beds I’ve been in have been great… but nothing’s quite like home!

What do you think?

Do you have any suggestions for where I should go on tour next time? Do you think your church would have me in??

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A Daddy Like Jesus

Leave a comment May 4, 2012 in Christian Life and Parenting

A Daddy Like Jesus - Carla Anne Coroy - a daddy in a crib with his babyI saw this video a short while ago and thought it was very cute.

Reminds me of the days when I’d finally get my baby to sleep and then slowly…  

o-h  s-o  v-e-r-y  s–l–o–w–l–y

take my hand off of him or her, finger by finger until there was nothing of me touching their little body.

Then I would attempt to tip-toe out of the room, avoiding every squeaky spot. I’d hold my breath until I got out of the room and the door was finally closed.

More often than not I wouldn’t even get as far as the door.

Jesus climbed into our crib

This video is such a perfect example of what Jesus did for us.

He crawled into the crib with us. He got out of His ‘God World’, put on skin and human frailty, and then entered the place where we were.

It was confining for Him. He became limited in so many ways by becoming human… yet He was still God.

The daddy in this video gave up his freedom to sleep in his own comfy bed. He couldn’t stretch out. He couldn’t sleep.

His love for his child kept him in that crib.

Just like Jesus’ love for us kept Him here and on that cross.

See how much God loves you?

Have you recognized your need of Him?

Are you able to rest on Him like this baby rests on her daddy?

 

Enjoy the video. Embrace Jesus.

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One More Week – Get Your Surveys In To Win!

Leave a comment May 4, 2012 in Christian Life, Food & Fun, Marriage, Married Single Moms, News, Parenting and Women

Mother’s Day is fast approaching – and that means you have just one more week to get in on our final Interviews 2012 draws!

Interviews 2012 with Carla Anne

This year I’m interviewing women who are, or who have ever been:

Foster Moms,
Adoptive Moms,
or Married Solo Moms

If you fill out your interview survey and return it to me by Friday, May 11 you could win…

A Kindle Touch 3G!!!

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These little gizmos are really, really nice – and I’d love to have one myself!

There’s also a gift card draw for people who refer interviews my way… so tell some moms!!!

Do you have your interview package yet?

You can get an interview package by requesting it via the form on my contact page.

Thanks very much!

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The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex – Book Review

2 Comments May 3, 2012 in Christian Life, Marriage, Married Single Moms, Reviews, Teen Girls and Women

My friend Sheila Wray Gregoire must have no fears at all!

How else could she write a book about sex AND make a video of herself and her husband in bed?!?!  (You can see the video below.)

I certainly couldn’t do it! But she did… and she did it well.

Recommended for women young and old!

Let me say right off the start: I highly recommend this book to every young woman who is of dating age and thinking about sex or marriage (preferably not in that order). It’s a fabulous book for the rest of you women too, even those of you who have been married longer than you ever thought possible.

This book is very biblical in its approach and I love that. Sheila deals with real issues and does it very well. I would have no qualms whatsoever letting my oldest daughter read this at age 16. I would know she is getting factual, accurate information, with a perspective that is solidly based in Scripture and which communicates the truth that sex is to be holy, fun and incredibly exciting within the context of marriage.

Getting ready for marriage

Before I was married I read a book on sex. The book is called Intended for Pleasure by Ed Wheat. It was recommended by the pastor doing our pre-marriage counseling.

I was so overwhelmed reading that book it was ridiculous. Intended for Pleasure is all techniques and good solid information. But by the time I was done the book I was sure I could never achieve the glorious sex that took all the effort and practice that book talked about. Not to mention all the ‘troubleshooting’ sections. I think that book would be better for couples who may need a little more help after their wedding.

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I wish I would have had Sheila’s book. In Chapter 8 Sheila gave a very succinct, real, down-to-earth how-to of sex. There is nothing provocative or graphic in the sense of stirring up your lust or fantasies. Rather it is practical, and answers all the questions I had before I was married. I’ll be sure my daughters read that!

For those already married

Sheila addresses all sorts of possible troubles with sex for those who are married. Whether it’s a super-high sex drive or a non-existent libido, Sheila covers every issue thoroughly, with care and with gentleness.

Sheila lays it out straight, giving no spouse the right to have it all their way, but rather encouraging biblical intimacy and a marriage that thrives on biblical principles all the way through.

I really appreciated her section on positions, sex toys, and ‘other sex’ (anal sex, oral sex, masturbation, etc). Sheila handles these topics very well, wisely giving the reader biblical information where there is information, and letting the reader know when it is simply her opinion. She clearly explains why she holds certain ideas, and gives the reader freedom to make decisions where that is biblically allowed – even if it is something she herself may not practice or enjoy.

Kids, work, health issues… Sheila addresses it all.

I love how she is so practical. She addresses sex as a necessary part of marriage, yet at the same time doesn’t forget that as women we cook dinner, bathe kids, do laundry, clean house and work! She’s got practical tips and ideas, how-tos and suggestions for everyone.

So very well done!

I have to say… I respect Sheila’s writing of this book.

I know her husband is fully supportive of her writing and even her writing on this topic. He must be exceptionally proud of his wife, who can talk about sex and her experience without once – not even once – hinting at any kind of disrespect or even private information about their personal sex lives. This book is well-written and very tastefully presented.

I highly recommend this book and give it 5 stars out of 5 stars!

And now… here’s Sheila and her hubby in their very own Not-So-Sexy video!!

Please go ahead and check out her great blog. Like her on Facebook. Follow her on Pinterest.

And leave a comment for her here on my blog! I know she’ll read it. Authors love that kind of thing!!

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When Kids Fight

1 Comment May 2, 2012 in Parenting

If you have more than one child they likely fight. If you don’t… well, perhaps this will help you understand your friends who do.

Why do they fight?

To begin with, children are selfish. Born with sin, they are not born ‘good’. That’s a heavy influence right from the start.

However, there are other factors at play as well:

  • Developmentally they are not necessarily (depending on age) able to reason with others or understand cause and effect.
  • They may be tired, hungry, stressed, not feeling well, etc.
  • They may feel they need to protect themselves or someone else.
  • They may fight because we let them, or even inadvertently encourage it.
  • They see fighting modeled for them.

When Kids Fight - Carla Anne Coroy - young siblings fighting

Notice I did not say these were excuses. They may be reasons.

Of course, even when there are reasons to fight, that does not necessarily mean we should.

But you don’t want to completely squelch fighting in your children (and you may not be able to anyway). Sometimes fighting can be healthy.

Letting them fight – with coaching

So let’s say your kids are in a tizzy, going at it with guns blazing. The words are flying (and hopefully nothing else is getting thrown). Instead of cutting them off with a ‘Stop fighting!’, get involved with them.

Say, “Can Mommy help you fight better?”

They’ll look at you a little crazy, but you’ll have the chance to turn a tantrum into a teachable moment.

Here are some good reasons to let children fight, at least verbally. But notice… all these need active coaching for your kids to really benefit.

  • It gives them the freedom to express their thoughts and feelings. Every child needs to know that his/her thoughts and feelings are valued.
  • They learn how to communicate exactly what it is that is bothering them. If you’ve ever worked outside of your own home you likely wish that a few others had been taught how to communicate effectively, especially when they are not happy!
  • It gives them the freedom to come to a solution between the two (or three) of them instead of having Mommy be the solution-provider. This encourages creative problem-solving and compromise.
  • They can learn how to say what needs to be said without bad words, name-calling, and yelling. (Another thing I wish more adults had been taught as children.)

Sometimes, of course, you just have to step in and be The Mom.

There are fun ways to encourage kids to get over bad attitudes and like each other again. In another post I’ll tell you some of what my mom used on me and my brother, and what I’ve used on my kids.

How about you?

  • Do your kids fight?
  • Do you take time to engage with them in their fights or are you a ‘Stop It!’ mom?
  • What do your kids fight about the most?
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The Respect Dare – Week 6 – Toeing the Line

4 Comments May 1, 2012 in Marriage, Married Single Moms and Women

One of this week’s dares, Dare 26, is about supporting a decision your husband makes that you simply don’t agree with.

The Respect Dare - Week 6 - Toeing the Line - Carla Anne Coroy - Cover of the book The Respect Dare

Ugh… and what wife hasn’t had to deal with that!?!?

It’s a real struggle, for sure. And let me tell you, we’ve had our share of these.

When you disagree

Here are some practical steps for those times when you and your husband don’t agree on a decision.

Pray about it

So your husband has an idea that he wants implemented ASAP, and you think it is the dumbest thing you have ever heard of.

Maybe you think it may ruin you financially. Maybe you’re concerned it will negatively affect the kids.

Maybe it just strikes you as foolish or ill-conceived.

Whatever it is, you don’t think it’s the decision your family needs right now. That’s when you need to pray.

Pray that God would open your eyes to see things the way your husband sees them so that you can see what’s in your blind spots. Pray that God would open his eyes to see things differently. Ask God for wisdom… and then act on the wisdom He gives you.

Respectfully share information

Respectfully let your husband know what you see in the situation and how you might handle it differently.

This is not the time for… ‘That is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard!’

Neither should you be saying… ‘Over my dead body will I ever….’ This is not the time to pit yourself against him.

This is when you respectfully share information.

That information could be data that he needs or may have overlooked. It could and should include how this might make you feel. The impact it may have on the kids.

Whatever you do… make it information not emotional manipulation!!! Give him all the info he needs to make a godly decision.

Ask for time

Ask your husband if the decision can wait until you have both prayed about it together more. Ask for time to think about it, and to discuss and explore other options and possible compromises.

For some this works sweetly. For others… this alone would be the deal breaker.

Follow the Holy Spirit’s leading on this one.

Back him up

For most of us there comes a time when our husbands actually make a decision that we have to enforce, but that we simply disagree with!

But if we have given him all the info we have, and if we have prayed over the situation, then it is time to leave it to God and follow through in respectful unity. Not unity in that you agree… but unity as a couple and as parents if appropriate.

(Of course if it is something that is sinful or illegal… that’s a different story. Then do not do it!)

It is so important for us to remember that ultimately our husbands have to give an account to God for how they handled their lives, including their wives and kids. That means this nasty situation, too.

And if your husband is messing up and making the mistake of his life… but you have done your part… he will be held responsible for that. Pray for him. Pray even as you respectfully follow his wishes that God would break through to him. Pray that God would protect you and your husband and family from the consequences.

A respectful wife is not a doormat!

The approach I’ve described here works, and it does not make you a doormat.

A doormat has no opinion, gives no advice, and offers no feedback… she just lays down and does whatever is required.

A respectful wife gives her opinion, offers her godly advice, uses her personality and God-given abilities to inform and offer feedback… and then respects her husband and supports his decision. She doesn’t have to agree in order to offer respectful support.

I know that God will reward the wife who has lived this way.

Sometimes it is this respect that draws our husbands closer to us and God. Your prayers will be your strength as God communicates to you about this situation.

I’m not at home right now… and I don’t have time to ask permission of my husband to share a particular time this came up… but trust me… we have had to deal with this.

And we’re still happily married! Respect still works!

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Choosing a Future – Your SHAPE

Leave a comment April 30, 2012 in Christian Life, Parenting and Teen Girls
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Today you might see just a little sprout pointing in the direction you should go. But someday it might grow into something strong and beautiful that the Lord has planted in you!

This is the final post in our Choosing a Future series.

Wow! It’s a been a great time looking at what’s next and researching what God may have planned for you.

Pulling it all together

Over the past number of weeks we’ve examined your…

Spiritual Gifts

Heart

Abilities

Personality, and

Experience.

You have all your notes and thoughts pulled together – now what do you do with it all?

Seek God for further clarity

This is where we take all the parts, lay them before God and say… ‘God, what is it that you have created me for?’

And then we listen.

We ask Him to open our eyes to see how He has worked in our past and present to prepare us for the future. We talk to Him about what we’re looking forward to and hoping for.

And we lay down all the things that may not be part of His plan.

Ugh… but how do you know, right? How can you be sure that what you finally think you hear from God is actually His plan?

How do you know for sure?

I’d like to say it’s easy. But it’s not really. On the other hand it’s not hard either.

  1. Spend lots and lots of time in prayer. Ask God to give you experiences that promote the direction He wants you to take, and to put people in your path that will help point you in the direction He wants you to go.
  2. Ask Him to give you a passion for the things He is passionate about.
  3. Talk to wise, godly people in your life. People like your parents, your youth leader, aunts and uncles, your mentor (if you have one), teachers, and other leaders.
    • When you talk to them, gather their information and advice, but keep in mind that you do not have to do what they all say! Your job is to search for godly counsel. You need to take what you find (through prayer) you need to keep, and let go what needs to be let go.
    • If you are still living at home in your parents’ house, you still need to obey them. However, if you sense God is leading you in a direction they don’t approve of, make it a matter of prayer for God to change either their hearts or yours. Then see #5 below.
  4. Take the next step. It may not seem like a big step or even like a major decision. But moving forward step by step is the only way to walk. Go in the direction that you sense the Lord is leading.
  5. Don’t be afraid. You may decide to do something that people you love don’t necessarily agree with. But if you know without a shadow of a doubt that God is calling you to that thing, you need to obey God. It is God you will stand before one day to answer for how you lived… not your parents, or your friends, or the person who pays for your college.

If you’ve taken your SHAPE into consideration, and have spent time in prayer and seeking godly counsel, then you can take the steps that God has put before you with confidence. You are walking in the way God designed for you. Enjoy it!

Share with us!

  • What do you find is the hardest part of this process?
  • Which part do you find the easiest?

More posts in this series

Choosing a Future
Choosing a Future – Your Personality
Choosing a Future – Your Spiritual Gifts
Choosing a Future – Your Heart
Choosing a Future – Your Abilities
Choosing a Future – Your Experience
Choosing a Future – Your SHAPE (right here!)

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